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As
a transformational healer, I specialize in helping people push
open the door to change and self-growth. Often we are ready to change,
we know we don’t like the lives we are leading, or we realize
particular habits are getting in our way, but we just can’t
seem to get the motivation going to actually take that step. I have
successfully helped clients heal from many, many issues, including
trauma/disturbing memories, grief and loss, career transition,
relationship/intimacy issues, sexual concerns, self-esteem, addictions,
spiritual issues, and depression. I am also an expert at working with
childhood (and adult) abuse, and in most cases clients are able to
achieve full closure and find a peace they never previously believed
possible. Nearly always, the combination of techniques I utilize enable
clients to completely heal. Having the privilege of witnessing such
transformations
is both humbling and awe-inspiring.
If
it
sounds like I am doing therapy, you’re close, because I do
have degrees in educational psychology–a Masters in
counseling psychology, and a Ph.D. in psychological
foundations. I am also licensed as a professional counselor
in the state of Minnesota (LPC #102). And I still consider
many of my techniques to be psychological in origin. However, the
healing modalities I have now used for the past decade have a much
broader base. I focus on transformation
and reaching one’s potential.
As a
healer, I have come to realize that I work best with people who have a
strong desire to change. While I
certainly encourage people to take responsibility for, and work
through, all of the damaging events from their past, I consider this
the tip of the iceberg. To truly transform our lives, we need to be
willing to face the pain of the past first. More importantly, however,
will be the burning desire to take that pain and transform it into
healing, and that takes courage, passion and commitment. One of the
principal ways I help my clients accomplish this is by examining old,
core, limiting
beliefs and preconceptions they have taken on about the world. These
negative paradigms are often written off as irrational, or sometimes my
clients consider them simply the truth--'just the facts'. But to
consider such damaging beliefs either irrational and thus not worth
paying attention to, or factual and therefore not changeable, will
prevent you from healing. Such "false sentences"
have usually been absorbed on a very deep level, controlling much of
our sabotaging behavior. Examples include, "I
will never be good enough," or "People will always leave me because I
am not loveable," or "I
am permanently damaged." However, once we have
uncovered these hidden messages, time is spent working through all of
the negative pictures and memories associated with the belief. Then I
help the client shift the
focus of their attention/energy to moving forward; the techniques I use
enable a very rapid healing process.
Some of the main techniques I utilize include EMDR, NLP,
Reparenting, and Forgiveness Work. You can read more about these
on the techniques page.
I
don’t expect or want my clients to stay stuck in the pain of
their past or current lives forever. Rather, as we work through each
specific disturbing event from the past (or present), my clients are
then able to integrate the healing into their current lives and
spontaneously behave differently. I am
there to help liberate clients from their negative
ways of looking at the world; I like to say I ‘hold the
space’ for the manifestation of each client's most authentic
self. I am there to encourage,
coach, provide support and suggestions, and introduce means of enabling
my clients to begin living healthy, happy lives. I have had so many
clients, as we complete therapy, tell me with tears and amazement in
their eyes, that they are like a different person, someone that they
like to be around. That is priceless, for if we can't love ourselves,
we can't accept the love of others. However, if a client comes to me
week after week, not
being willing to engage in the techniques I use, not having done any of
the ‘homework’ I have given them, and seems to be
complaining that
their life is still the same, I will try to point out that they
haven’t done much to change it. While I’m pretty
good at my job, I’m not a miracle worker. Changing takes
tremendous courage and persistence–nobody
else can do it for us, but I will do anything I can to
enable that process for my clients. Miracles can and do happen; I witness them every day.
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